Some say, “Islam is no lovey-dovey religion. How can it possibly be when it is synonymous with ‘Jihad’ [struggles] of all variations, even in Muslim minds?” That is far from the truth. Indeed, the Qur’an tells us that the first who were established on earth were a couple, Adam and Hawa (as). They were the first addressed by Allah (SWT) and granted residence in Jannah: “We said: ‘O Adam, inhabit the Garden, you and your wife. Eat from it in comfort and ease, wherever you wish.” (2:36) This is no coincidence, for Allah (SWT) could have chosen to create the first family [of parents and children], maybe tribe, community, or society right? For Allah (SWT) is able. But no, it had to be a couple. Imagine that! Imagine that the establishment of humankind on earth and its management as Allah (SWT) wants depended on the sacred and healthy relationship of a married couple. The couple is the source of every family, tribe, community, society, yea of all of humankind, “O mankind! We created you from a single (pair) of a male and a female, and made you into nations and tribes, that ye may know each other (not that ye may despise (each other). Verily the most honored of you in the sight of God is (he who is) the most righteous of you. And God has full knowledge and is well acquainted (with all things).” (49:13)
They were the first appointed deputies on the earth, and through them the future generations would continue to fulfill their “Allah given titles and professions as deputies on earth.” Through them the original and only objective of our creation would be realized and continued on earth. Righteous couples, insha Allah, strive for this purpose as they rear their offspring toward this same purpose in the hope that it will eventually snowball into righteous communities, societies, nations and eventually the world at large. That is a heavy task, and without “love” the world as Allah (SWT) wants it will not go round. It would be empty and unbearable. So, not only are you born with an honorable title and profession, but it is expected to also have a partner whose “business” relationship is that of wonder for Allah (SWT), “Among His wonder is that He created for you, from among yourselves, spouses with whom to find comfort, and instilled between you love and mercy. In these are signs for a people who ponder and reflect.” (30:21) The partnership consists of attraction, love, intimacy, and mercy adjusted to conform to the pleasure of Allah (SWT) in order to guarantee the continuity and success of this Ummah for the benefit of the human race in general. And who better to learn about it all than through the example of the “engineer” of love himself, Prophet Muhammad (saw). All his marriages were real love stories, as opposed to the classical stories propagated through film and print nowadays. Love stories that end in either death or pain, or unrealistic fairytale or mythical endings.
Are you among those “. . . who ponder and reflect” (30:21) on the signs of Allah (SWT) in His creation of men and women, and the beautiful relationship between them, then join us this Thanksgiving weekend in taking Al Maghrib Institute’s Love Notes: Marriage and Family Life, offered by Sheikh Yaser Birjas. Assess if you are spiritually, psychologically, and financially ready for marriage? If you know what completing half of your religion actually means? And if you are already married learn how to rekindle the romance and passion between you and your spouse.